In the second part of our series on effective communication, we review an additional skill which is necessary for effective communication between Iranian women and men. If you have not studied Part One of this series of articles, we suggest reading it first before proceeding to this part. You can review it here: “Effective Communication Guide, Part One”.
2- Iranian women and men and body language
Communication is not only about what is said, but also about what is unspoken yet signaled by our bodies. Iranian women, in particular, should pay attention to their non-verbal communication, because they can be more emotional and emotions are displayed in many different ways. The way they talk, their facial expressions, their gestures, etc. can speak louder than words. Sometimes Iranian women are trying to agree with the point their Iranian partner is making, but are surprised to find that their partner is reacting strangely. This may be because their words and their body language are not consistent. Most of the time people are more impacted by someone’s body language than their words, since it is easier to fake words. Now that Iranian women and men are aware of the importance of their body language, they can take steps to control it.
Iranian women and men can pay more attention to other people’s body language in society and try to imitate positive role models. Here they should not forget that different cultures have different body languages. Especially in a country like the US where many different cultures are living together, Iranian women and men should be selective about mirroring the body languages which work best with their cultural background. Once chosen, they can then practice these signals in the mirror. Since stress and nervousness can change Iranian women and men’s body language from positive and understanding to negative and worrisome, it is useful for them to practice what they want their body language to convey no matter what stress they may be under. This skill will not only help them communicate with their partners, but also help in other aspects of their lives (e.g. public speaking or job interviews). For example, if they go on a very important interview where they feel nervous, being in control of their body language will help them to look confident and in control which goes a long way toward leaving a positive impact on their audience.
One more thing to pay attention to is the tone of their voice, because it is an important part of non-verbal communication. For example, when Iranian women and men talk to a child they use a totally different tone compared to when they are talking to an adult. Similarly, they use a different tone when agreeing with a statement versus denigrating an idea.
This week Iranian singles have enough time to observe, practice and adjust their body language for the purpose of carrying on clear and straightforward communication. Next week we will talk about yet another skill to improve communication.